We all want assurances in life. Money back guarantees are great when they suit the situation but there can't be any guarantees to help you "be sure my husband will not cheat again" unfortunately. Love is a gamble. It may even be the biggest gamble of all. There are, however, things you can do that are sure to stack the deck in your favor.
While you can never be sure he will not cheat again there are things you can do that will make it much less likely.
Make him Happy About Coming Home
Think back to life before he cheated. Were there any almost constant arguments that took place when he returned from work every day? Common arguments at the end of a long day at work often revolve around lack of food on the table, chaos with kids, clutter in the home, or nagging at home.
While you don't have to become the household slave in order to make your marriage work there are things you can do that will mitigate the arguments and make him happier about coming home each day.
Here are a few things you might want to sit down and have a long discussion about before you find yourself in this situation again.
1) Consider hiring someone to come in once a week and clean. This will relieve some of the tension of clutter. You may have to do a little creative budgeting to make it happen but the rewards are well worth the effort.
2) Work out a schedule of chores and homework for the entire family and enact a system of punishments and rewards that everyone agrees on to make they schedule work. Even mom and dad must take part in the schedule for full effectiveness. An added benefit is that if there is a written schedule and an established routine there will be fewer instances of nagging for additional stress on the relationship.
3) Consider once a week or freezer cooking. You don't want to turn to take out every time a long day has interrupted dinner plans. Freezer cooking allows you to cook several meals on one day each week or month that are then frozen to be thawed and served on busy nights. You can even recruit the entire family to help with this one day with menu planning, food prep, and cleaning the kitchen afterwards. Most families would be glad to pitch in one day a week rather than be called upon to do so 7 days a week.
Could it really be that simple? You better believe it. Give him a reason to come home happy every night and he'll have a hard time even considering going anywhere else.